- 4 days ago
Everywhere from the lyrics of One Direction songs to the judgmental commentary of bare-faced friends, the societal feelings about what it means to be a girl who changes her appearance are hard not to notice. Almost any girl who wears makeup — whether to cover up a problem, or simply for fun — has encountered, at least once, a patronizing commentary of “Why do you put that stuff on? You’re perfect just the way you are, you don’t need all that makeup,” or something of that nature. We are told that men prefer “natural” girls, that wearing makeup means we’re “fake,” or that we should just “be ourselves.” No matter how limiting it is to our own personal agency or respecting of how we want to treat our own bodies, many people still believe this commentary to be generally positive, even pro-woman.
Setting aside the deeply insulting and hurtful experience of having a woman with perfect, glowing skin tell you that your wearing of foundation somehow makes you inherently “not yourself” in some way, it’s important to note that this rhetoric extends to much more than just makeup. Everything from spending time on your hair every day to dressing in an overly “put-together” fashion can put you under the harsh gaze of both women and men who feel that if you in any way deviate from what is “natural,” they have a valid reason to criticize you and your perceived confidence. For the relatively minor crime of styling my hair before I leave the house, I have been subject to many a condescending rant from women more “natural” than I, who insist that they just “shake their hair and go” because they “love to be themselves.” And this commentary would be fine, were it not built, at least in part, on the idea that somehow a woman who wears makeup or does her hair is not “loving herself” with the same honesty.
Regardless of the reasons why someone may alter their appearance — or what means they use to do it — if they are making a choice which makes them feel better about their body, it is no one’s job to shame them for it or imply that they are not being honest with themselves. The truth is, “being yourself” and “being natural” are things which each person decides. None of us are walking around naked — everyone is doing something to change the way they look, at least slightly. We get haircuts, we have different clothes for different occasions, we shave, we do things every day which make us more suited to our environments and allow us to express different ideas through our appearances. There is no arbitrary line drawn in the sand over how much you’re “allowed” to alter yourself before it’s considered compensating, or dishonest, or deserving of derision.
A woman who is dressed to the nines and in a full face of makeup is just as much a woman — and just as deserving of respect — as one who lives every day bare-faced and in simple garments. If you happen to feel at your personal best and most attractive when you are at your most minimally altered, good for you. But it is never anyone’s job to tell a woman concealing her blemishes, or putting on a pair of Spanx, or styling her hair, that she is somehow less real. The only thing we should be shaming, when it comes to what women do, is our weird cultural need to maintain control over other women’s bodies."
- 4 days ago
"As a child I never heard one woman say to me, “I love my body.” Not my mother, my elder sister, my best friend. No one woman has ever said, “I am so proud of my body.” So I make sure to say it to Mia, because a positive physical outlook has to start at an early age."
- 1 week ago
This is my Fitblr!
Basically why I didn’t work out yesterday.Leg was too much in pain. Because of waiting and NOT TRYING TO KILL MYSELF LIKE OTHER CRAZY PEOPLE BE DOING ALL FOR THE SAKE OF FITTING INTO A SOCITAL MOLD I TOOK A DAY OFF AND NOW I FEEL GREAT AND IS GOING TO KICK ASS TODAY.
This is fantastic! What a gigantic “f*ck you” to all the damaging “fitspo” out there. Respect your body and yourself, and know when enough is enough! <3
So true!! I accidentally overdid a little it on Sunday, so I took Monday AND Tuesday as rest days and on Wednesday I had a kick ass workout!
(via geekingoutrightboutnow)Source: fit-fabstroid
- 2 weeks ago
Sore muscles? Try an ice cup massage! I can remember many teammates doing this my freshman year at track and was so confused. I finally rediscovered this amazing feeling when I started having knee problems and my coach recommended it!
Basically, if you haven’t done this before, you fill up a styrofoam cup a little less than half way with water and pop it in the freezer. A few hours later it will be frozen and you can peel off the sides of the cup and rub it anywhere it hurts, your calves, shins, quads, knees! It feels amazing and I would highly recommend it! (:
Make sure you do have a towel nearby because the ice melts quickly and can get a bit messy! As the ice melts further and further down you just peel off more of the sides until you are finished (:
Ice massages are great especially for shin splints. Just 3-5 minutes moving continuously over the affected area is all it takes!
(via bodypeace-and-love)Source: happyhealthytrackster
- 2 weeks ago
- 2 weeks ago
Fuck what my stomach looks like in a bikini or what my thighs look like in shorts. I want my plate to be colorful for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. I want to run a mile and feel like running 10 more afterwards. I want to feel like I’m filled to the brim with energy all day long. I just want to be healthy.
(via stabilityandstrength)Source: theveganathlete